Monday, October 10, 2011

Sitting with Pain

"Not everything that is faced can be changed.
But nothing can be changed until it is faced."
- James Baldwin


I don't even need to list the problems that are facing the world right now and for the purpose of keeping you inspired will not. What I will say is that sometimes in order to maintain balance sometimes we need to let ourselves drop into our pain and experience it. Pain as I've learned can be useful. It is a sign that something is happening whether it be physical, emotional, financial or spiritual.

I'm learning to allow myself to feel painful things when they come. I'm not a matyr or machocist but I am a young adult who understands that life is not always dreams come true and happy times. It's about being realistic without being pessimistic. It's about knowing that sometimes failure is the best attractor for more success. It's about learning that in order to love again you may have to have your heartbroken.

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Being realistic without being pessimistic

The question that I would like to ask is what has the world come to, but the real question is why did it take me all these years to notice that our world is screwed up.
A song I love by the 80's group Cameo called "Skin I'm In" says 'I'm just trying to be realistic without being pessimistic.'
That needs to be the mantra of this era. No longer can we ignore that our minds have been brainwashed. I can only speak for myself.  I have tried for as long as I can to see the good in others but I've come to now concluded some people are just morally corrupt.  I don't believe in fighting evil with evil but I do believe in doing all one can to make it clear that evil has no space in my home.
I'm sort of rambling on because the real topic I write about is going to require some compiling of stories.

"I"m just trying to be realistic without being pessimistic.

Monday, September 26, 2011

Race, Death, and Reality

Seth Godin inspired me to pick my blog back up. Writing is a skill that is developed just like talking with practice. As opposed to writing about all the thoughts I have in my head I thought I'd  touch on some things that I've read in the last week that I can't seem to shake.

"White Mayor's Burden" by Steven Thrasher in the Village Voice (Read Here) got me thinking a lot about race. We are all clearly aware that issues such as racism will never go away. It's sad but as long as people focus on things that make us different we will never truly be unified as a human race.  Thrasher pointed out statistics that have had me in a funk as I walk down my Harlem streets. Statistics that report that by the end of 2011 more than 60,000 people will be arrested for marijuana. Which is more than the seating capacity of Yankee Stadium and of those numbers what number do you think will be African-American or Latino?  Here is some interesting information from the article.


"Frederique is making a hyperbolic joke, but she maintains that the prospect that "young men of color, who are hyper-policed in this city" are actually walking around in large groups smoking pot in open view is absurd. So is the notion that poor black males smoke pot more than richer, paler men and women. But still, they get disproportionately arrested because, under Mayor Bloomberg and Police Commissioner Ray Kelly, the NYPD uses controversial UF-250s—"stop-and-frisks"—on them at a record-setting pace.
"I'm a police officer, I come up to you," Frederique explains as if she were a cop approaching a young man in East New York. "'What are you doing? What's in your pockets? Pull it out.' Once you pull it out, it becomes 'marijuana in plain view.'
"And that's when they arrest you."
According to the New York Civil Liberties Union, more than 600,000 New Yorkers were stopped and frisked last year. Of them, 317,642 were black (53 percent), and 190,491 were Latino (32 percent). Just 55,083 (9 percent) were white. About 70 percent of them were under 30."
What's the solution? Legalize marijuana? Be less harsh on marijuana laws? Face it that racism is still like a virus affecting our world? I'm not sure what the solution and am certainly not the person to figure it out. Or maybe I will be?  It upsets me to see these numbers and to see a different reality portrayed in the media. i.e. Entourage. Love the show but they portray Turtle as big pot head and not once has he had a run in with the law. I'm just sayin.
 I have to take a moment to speak from the heart. I just found out that a vocal legend has died Vesta Williams was one of the most gifted vocalist I knew growing up.  A voice that was pure as silk and could sail way down into the basements with that "gloss" as Luther Vandross would say. She was raunchy, funny and  sassy and like many great artist in the post-MTV world never gained the recognition to have made her a household name. Being that I live and breathe R&B she is one of the queens that I would listen to and imitate as I was found my on voice as a singer. Sadly, it is said Vesta died in LA, the cause of death is still unknown but it's looking as if it may have been suicide. As the report mentions that  
Multiple bottles of prescription pills were found in the El Segundo, CA hotelroom where R&B singer Vesta Williams died … law enforcement sources tell TMZ. 

What saddens me the most about Vesta's death is that as I get older and see stars such as Amy Winehouse, Kurt Cobain, Michael Jackson, and Phylis Hyman with such amazing talents succumbing to their demons. Speaking freely, being an artist is no walk in the park. It can be lonely and often times insecurity can do such a number on you that you never feel  satisfied. I don't know the details of any of these artist lives and I'm sure there are thousands of other artist to succumb to sucide or drug related deaths that have not been headline news.  
I don't have the answer to this one yet but my goal is to now start creating content and work that does all it can to uplift the human soul.
On a positive note last night BET aired the UNCF  Night of Stars with performances by Erykah Badu, Ledisi, Anthony Hamilton, and Patti Labelle.  It was a fabulous night of entertainment however, the real stars of the night were the college students and graduates that are continuing to show that a mind is a terrible thing to waste.
My reality is this. Life is not black or white. It's always been a very gray thing. After wanting to be so upset with the numbers reported in the Thrasher article I realized that is only one part of the puzzle and many articles and most media does very little to focus on the great things that are happening in the world. For example, Barrington Irving of Experience Aviation in 2007 was the youngest person and the first ever black person to fly solo around the world.  
Great things are happening in the world and I don't know if anyone needs to blamed but I do know that if you want find the good in this world sometimes you have to make that your intention and take the necessary acts to find that reality.
I'm grateful for Seth Godin for giving me the boost I needed to write.
 
If you know you have to write something every single day, even a paragraph, you will improve your writing. If you're concerned with quality, of course, then not writing is not a problem, because zero is perfect and without defects. Shipping nothing is safe.-Seth Godin



Sunday, August 7, 2011

Boost of Positive Energy for 8th August 2011

Rule of life: People either raise your positive energy or lower you to their negative energy.

When I was growing up my mother used to say "Bad association spoils useful habits." Of course being a teenager I would let that phrase go in one ear and out the other opting to hang with the "cool kids" even if that meant doing things that were against the law.

It is sometimes a challenge to see who is helping us be all that we can be and who is taking us off course. 

The challenge is to be mindful of who you are and in tune with your feelings to be aware if someone is taking you off your course. It may take a while to get good at this internal navigational system, but in time you will feel that negative energy coming from miles away and be able to head in the opposite direction.

Life is a blessing, don't waste it with negative people. 


Be BOOSTED!!!!!

Neil

Monday, May 2, 2011

Thinking 2 Know vs. Feeling to Trust

If I keep thinking it. It will happen. Yet sometimes I over think and then don't know if what I am thinking about is real or just me making a sign just to know. Tricky stuff I'm talking about here. We have experience. i.e. You meet someone. You like them. You go somewhere else and see them again. This time you wonder. Are we supposed to keep seeing each other. Maybe it's a sign. Maybe we both just needed to get some sun and decided to sit in the park on a Sunday afternoon. UGGGGGHHHHH. Thinking.
Feeling says I liked the way I felt when I saw this person. I didn't like the way I felt when I was with this person. This person makes me feel off. This job makes me feel passionate.

For your self. Start to give your thoughts less attention and give more thought to your feelings. Your feelings are your guide. They are the only thing that you have that no one else can experience for you.
I'm just writing this because I've noticed that thinking only leads to more thinking. Where as your feelings you can use to do something.
There it is and no I don't feel it was a sign. ;)

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Stop chasing yourself

Worse is a man who is always chasing some ideal of a perfect self and missing the joy and wonder of experiencing the truth of himself.

I've realized lately how many times I've heard people going on about how they are going to do this when this happens and do that when that comes through. We all do. We chase. We chase ourselves and this imagined person who we think we should be yet everyday walk right past who we are in all it's joy and pain. All the beauty and ugliness of who we are.
I have a suggestion. Stop chasing yourself. Who you are right now is all you need to be. If you want to be something else know that you can become that vision but don't let the process of becoming that vision make you miss the joy of this moment.

Take a minute. Breathe in this moment. This moment once it's gone will never be again and that is worth celebrating.

Sunday, April 24, 2011